In "How Not to Be a Katsap" by Oksana Grytsenko, the narrator vividly portrays the stark contrast between Ukrainians and Russians in the context of Russia's aggression towards Ukraine. The narrator shares her personal journey with her Russian boyfriend, who fled to Ukraine as a refugee and joined her in opposing Russian actions. As the aggressor intensifies its attacks, they decide to marry and seek refuge in Romania. The narrator expresses her deep anger towards Russians and the devastating consequences of the aggression. She outlines criteria that define a "katsap" (a derogatory term for Russians), highlighting the stark differences in mindset and behavior between Ukrainians and Russians. The narrator emphasizes the importance of not succumbing to the behavior of the aggressors and pays homage to those who have lost their lives in the ongoing struggle. Ultimately, the story reflects the narrator's resolute determination not to let Russian actions define her or her people.